April 29, 2023-Saturday Musings of a Mature Woman

April 29, 2023

1. Over time, you will discover the things you once thought were important no longer matter.
2. In time, you will learn that freedom and peace of mind bring contentment.
3. Experience will teach you that love means caring about the needs of others and seeking ways to enhance their lives.
4. Learn to love yourself. Then you will work for the common good.
5. The Bible teaches only those who know God can exude true love. And those who do not possess unbiased love do not know the Creator. So seek to know God, then you will love as you are loved.
6. Growth compels us to seek to do good and find ways to avoid causing harm daily.
7. Wisdom knows how to use knowledge. Look for life’s silver linings and hold tight when you grasp them.
8. Assess the measuring tool you use to critique yourself.
9. Spend more time evaluating yourself than finding fault with or in others.
10. Overcome your weaknesses and hone your strengths.
11. Ask and answer the question, “What motivates me?” Then pray about what to do with that knowledge.
12. Don’t share wisdom with those who refuse to listen. They will resent you and look for ways to undermine and destroy you.
13. Do the right things for the right reasons.
14.  Enjoy life. It is shorter than you think.
15.  Ask and answer the question, “What do I most want out of life?
16. What three areas of life will you work on improving today?
17. What skills and strategies do you use to work your way out of a mess?
18. Train your mind to think positively and look for solutions.
19. To reach your destination, you may need to change directions.
20. Atone when necessary.

 

Saturday Musings of a Mature Woman

Today’s musings are questions I am pondering (not for the first time). Over time, I hope to briefly answer each one, not necessarily in order, but in a way that makes sense and brings continuity to my search and the outcome of that search to create a more meaningful life.

1. How have I impacted the lives of the people with whom I come in contact – do I help or hurt them? Do I encourage or discourage them? Have I treated them how I want to be treated and how I want my loved ones treated?
2. How do I nurture peace, opportunities for others, and inspiration among family and coworkers at home, work, and the larger community?
3. What specific things do I do to improve the quality of life for others, especially those outside my inner circle?
4. What motivates me?
5. In what ways have I evolved?
6. What are my core values? Upon what or which principle(s) are those values derived? Have they changed over time? If so, why and in what ways?
7. Aside from material gain and personal growth, what do I want from life? What difference do these things make? Why does it matter?
8. Do I inspire optimism? If so, about what?
9. Do I look for and recognize the good in and value of others?
10. What are the 10 most significant influences in my life?

 

Saturday Musings of a Mature Woman

April 15, 2023

1. Seek peace, not adoration or acceptance.
2. Be good to yourself by doing nice things for yourself.
3. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit; treat it that way.
4. Practice the Golden Rule – treat people the way you want to be treated.
5. Practice mercy, peace, and positive thinking.
6. Practice doing good; it will become a habit.
7. Pray for hope and look for life’s silver linings.
8. Pray for discernment and wisdom.
9. Fix yourself – keep looking and moving forward and up.
10. “Stay in love with God. Do good. Do no harm.” (The Late Reuben P. Job.)

 

One Woman’s Response to Another National Tragedy

A little over two months have passed since the tragic killing of Mr. Tyre Nichols by five Memphis, Tennessee police officers on January 7, 2023, and Bloody Sunday, March 7, was commemorated less than two weeks ago. So, now seems an apt time to add my thoughts to the conversations about Mr. Nichols’ murder.

The barbarity of the crime, Mr. Nichols – one unarmed man, brutality beaten and mocked by five firearms-toting police officers, paid, and sworn to protect Mr. Nichols’ rights, demonstrated a wanton disregard for Mr. Nichol’s civil and human rights. The offense also gave the public another glimpse into the atrocities that can, and often, occur when an individual or group is given unfettered power.

The firing and subsequent charging of the officers involved in killing Mr. Nichols offer hope that the murderers will be convicted in a court of law, not just in the court of public opinion. Admittedly, the former police officers’ convictions will not bring Mr. Nichols back to life, compensate for his loss of life, or eradicate the profound grief his loved ones must endure.  

However, holding the officers accountable by convicting them of murdering Mr. Nichols may bring a small measure of comfort to those who love Mr. Nichols and restore public trust in the notion that justice is blind and every life matters.

God bless Tyre Nichols’ loved ones and help humanity to behave more humanely.

 

A 2022 Thanksgiving Litany of Praise

Lord, this is a day that you have made. I shall rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24

The joy you give me is my strength. Nehemiah 8:10

Lord, you are my rock and my fortress, my ever-present help. Psalm 18:2

God, grant me the grace to enter your gates with a thankful heart. Create in me a clean heart and pure motives. Then, you will accept my praise offerings. Psalm 100

Lord, because you are my shepherd I shall not want.   You make me lie down in green pastures. You lead me beside calm waters. You restore my soul. You lead me in the paths of righteousness for your name’s sake.   Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for you, Lord, are with me. Your rod and staff comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil. My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I desire to dwell in your house forever. Psalm 23

Lord, thank you for another day among mortals to participate in your redeeming process!

Lord, thank you for peace that surpasses human understanding.

Lord, thank you for always being there for me, helping me escape every pitfall.

Lord, thank you for a relatively long life and a portion of good health.

Lord, thank you for redemption and restoration.

My soul praises you, God, my Savior.

 

Why Our Words Matter

This writing was prompted by Peyton S. Gendron’s live-streamed killing of ten innocent people who had done the shooter no harm. Gendron‘s so-called manifesto and his actions on the fateful day of May 19, 2022, prove inflammatory words that inspired his horrific act were germinated by people preaching divisive rhetoric.

The Buffalo super-market shooter deserves to be held accountable for assassinating ten innocent people. However, the perpetrators of the hateful and untrue rhetoric that incited Gendron’s violence are also liable for the deaths of those ten innocent people Gendron killed. Moreover, those who promoted the diabolical theories corrupted Gendron’s (a weak-minded little man who lacks moral discernment) morals.

The following litany highlights ways our words impact us, others, and our varied environments – home, work, church, and neighborhood.

1. Words matter because they influence culture. Therefore, we should be careful about the things we say.
2. Positive words affirm, encourage, inspire, and lift up. They speak life, healing, and peace into existence.
3. Negative words kill and destroy people’s reputations, relationships, and livelihoods. In some cases, words crush people’s spirits poking holes in their self-esteem and objectifying them by attacking and questioning their inherent value.
4. Upbeat, pleasant words coupled with encouraging actions create warm and nurturing environments in which everyone has the opportunity to grow and flourish.
5. Disparaging words shun, exclude, ridicule, and harass. Such terms also create a hostile and abusive atmosphere where hatred and wrongdoing are nurtured and perpetrated.
6. When dropped in the hearing of weak-minded people, words can incite violence, including harassment, resulting in stigmatizing and the social genocide of individuals or particular groups.
7. Occasionally, negative words lead to unstable people committing horrific acts of violence, including conducting mass shootings, encouraging folk to commit suicide, or taking a neighbor’s life over a petty disagreement or perceived personal insult.

We should choose our words carefully, understanding they have an impact beyond the small group in which the words are uttered.

May God help us speak words of life, healing, and peace. May God’s Holy Spirit gently urge us to recant and repent from saying things that can cause pain and, in some instances, irreparable damage.

God, help humanity.

 

Seventy-one and Me

Acknowledging that all my help comes from above

Asking the Creator to protect my heart and fill me with agape love

Acutely aware of my mortality

Asking God to help me create and leave behind an inspiring and heart-warming legacy

Basking in God’s immeasurable love

Buoyed by God’s grace and mercy

Comforted, cuddled, and cared for by the One who is, who was, and ever shall be

Emboldened by God’s Spirit

Embracing, emerging, engaging, and unintentionally enraging

Ever moving upward and forward is the way life is and always has been for me

Facing reality; motivated to create peace and harmony

Forgiving because God has forgiven me

Remaining footloose and fancy-free

Searching for ways to improve, not liking some of what I see in me

Striving to be the best I can be by learning more about how to eradicate the flaws in me

Shaking off the dead weight and asking God to show me how to get rid of toxicity

Praying for God to lengthen, strengthen, and widen my capacity for empathy

Seventy-one and me

Learning, living, and loving

Continuing to cultivate me

Seventy-one and me

 

The Powerful Strength of Democracy

Like most Americans, I remained quiet but contemplative about the January 6, 2021, assault on the U. S. Capitol. However, on the anniversary of that fateful day, I was reminded that a group of fellow Americans participated in a violent attempt to prevent the certification of Joseph R. Biden, president-elect.

With dismay, I rewatched on television a mob rush the storied U.S. Capital, a worldwide symbol of democracy. Some in the crowd were chanting, “Hang Mike Pence.” The event was shocking, horrifying, and a flagrant assault on our democratic system. The folks involved behaved unpatriotically and un-American. At a minimum, they should be charged with vandalism, defacing government property, assaulting law enforcement officials, and treason.

Regardless of political ideology, God-loving and peace-loving American patriots do not employ Gestapo tactics to turn the United States of America into a totalitarian state because they disagree with the outcome of a legitimate election. Those who love this great country look for ways to strengthen, not weaken, the republic.

More importantly, those who affirm the assault on the Capital or try to whitewash the attack are as dangerous to the nation as the domestic terrorists who committed the seditious act. Shame on those who refuse to characterize the insurrections as anything other than domestic terrorists – people who used unlawful violence and intimidation against civilians in the pursuit of their personal political agenda.

It seems, integrity, love for this great nation, belief in the value of a democratic system, and concern for the common good, would compel patriotic Americans to call the assault what it was: an attack on American democracy and show by example a more civil way of dealing with political differences.

Unfortunately, too few Americans, especially politicians, have demonstrated the courage and integrity to publicly condemn the insurrection and name the mob participants domestic terrorists.

The 9-11-01 terroristic attack against our nation failed. Instead of destroying the country, America remained strong, and Americans united to protect the nation’s democratic system. Then the January 6, 2021, sedition happened. The attack failed on September 11, 2001, so did the January 6, 2021 assault. The duly elected candidate, Joe Biden, was sworn into office on January 20, 2021.

Fortunately, the failed attempts against our government show democracy is more powerful than the ideologies of those trying to cancel it.

Long live the United States of America!

May God continue blessing America and protecting the nation from terrorists and anti-democracy zealots.   

 

A Thanksgiving Litany of Praise

For people of goodwill, give thanks!

For the conveniences of modern living that make life comfortable and more satisfactory for us than for previous generations, give thanks.

For relatively long life, give thanks.

For relatively good health, give thanks.

For each person’s freedom to practice their religious preference without fear of punishment from the government, give thanks.

For the grace to appreciate the significance of seemingly small things, give thanks.

For our diverse world, give thank

For optimism and dreams fulfilled, give thanks.

For forgiveness and the ability to forgive, give thanks.

For living with and overcoming some of life’s most significant challenges, give thanks.

For friendship with God, give thanks.

For grace and mercy, give thanks.

 

A Mature Woman’s Saturday Morning Musings

Live your life, don’t walk in the shadows of others.

Be true to the good in you!

Find the true you and work on improving yourself.

Look for and acknowledge the good in others, including your adversaries.

Do good and avoid causing harm.

Don’t allow yourself to wallow in self-pity, no matter how much you deserve to do so.

Choosing to remain in damaged emotional or mental places stunts your growth, causes you to miss opportunities, and deprives you of joyful experiences.

Run from mean-spirited people. They will intentionally hurt you when it is in their interest.

Learn to love yourself and value the gift of life God has granted you.

Remember: You are created uniquely for a purpose that is larger than yourself.

God is Creator, not an imitator!